NLP and Your Learning behavior have deep connection.
Before understanding this connection let’s understand what NLP is.
We learn primarily through our 05 senses. All the information we store in our brain are through Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, Olfactory, Gustatory senses. This information is coded, ordered and have been given a particular meaning in our mind.
Let’s take an example.
How did you learnt the alphabet “A” ?
03 intersecting lines have been showed to you somewhere in your childhood and simultaneously you listened the sound … Aeyy.
This action repeated many times until your brain registered the sound and image which you call “A” now. Now you know what does A means and how does it behaves when it comes with our alphabets. This way you have entered in the world of academic learning.
Similarly, you have learnt your beliefs, values, identities and specially your emotional behavior primarily through your 05 senses, consciously or unconsciously.
You observe your parent the way they react in emotional situations, stored this knowledge in your brain and have given a meaning to your emotional behavior.
NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming enables you to learn the language of your brain. Developed by Dr. Richard bandler and John Grinder in 1970’s. Stephen Covey quoted the effectiveness of NLP in his block buster book ” 07 habits of highly effective people”.
Leaving the dilemma behind, whether NLP is a science or art, it certainly enables you to sharpen your senses, provide you the opportunity to learn the principles of your conscious and unconscious mind, strengthen your learning style, identify the pitfall in your learning and uncover the principles how behaviors are formed and how they are transformed.
Say for example, out of a bunch of convenient beliefs of NLP, one is:
” People do not respond to what is happening (i.e reality), but they respond what they think is happening (their perception). Thus by changing perception you can change the behavior ” .
Now coming back to understanding the deep relation of NLP with your learning behaviour.
Life is all about learning, unlearning and relearning. Sometimes we have learnt something from our parents and surroundings, that we should not need to learn. Instead of getting this learning uninstall, we just stick with it and blame the situation and external factors for our failures.
Every behavior driven by our perceptions. Infact behavior itself is nothing and is just a reflection of our perception.
We deals with our different faces and identities in 24 hours. Started our morning as father or mother, step out from home and compliment with the person to our next door as neighbor, entered in our office as employee or employer, greet our parents on the way back from office as son or daughter.
The problems starts when we failed to show flexibility, want to remain with one face and stick strictly to our pre-installed values and beliefs.
Imagine a girl, married to her spouse, left her parents house with some beliefs, values and identities.
The house, she is entering now, has its own beliefs and values which may or may not contradict with what exists already in her mind and she is already comfortable with. It means the girl is living within her comfort zone based on her belief and values.
Same is the case, when you switch your job or face new boss or relocate your house.
Now, in such cases, a person with greatest flexibility in his learning behavior will usually dominate. It simply means the more you are flexible in your learning behavior; the more persuasive you will be; the better your life will be.
NLP enables you to revisit the resistance you are facing in uninstalling and reinstalling your learning behaviour, whether the resistance is in form of your limiting beliefs, or the negative internal self talk speaking inside your head, or the imagination in your mind that limits you to take action.
It helps you to switch between the faces you have, when you are speaking it enables the respecting behavior as son, loving behavior as spouse, persuasive behavior as leader and caring behavior as parent.
It helps you to redefine the sound and image you have stored in form of “A”. It tells you that other language also exists in world and every language has its own pronunciations and they are perfectly ok too.